Are Wedding Proposals Dead?

If you ask me, I'd say absolutely not however, I do think some men have become lazy when it comes to this life-altering moment in time.  And Hollywood is no help:  On the season finale of “Entourage” this week, one of the characters proposes to his girlfriend only there was no grand gesture, no, instead it was more a spur-of-the-moment declaration of his commitment.  Unfortunately, that's how some engagements have gone.  Instead of taking the time to really think and plan something for your lady, some men opt for the spur of the moment thing: 
1.  The wake up in the morning and propose only works if you plan and prepare a nice breakfast
2.  The romantic dinner proposal only works if you opt for champagne and prepare an out-of-this-world speech
3.  The 'at-home' proposal only works if you go all out and light candles have music maybe prepare dinner, you know what I mean.

And of course every proposal would be better ehanced by hiring Surprise! You're Engaged (me) to professionally videotape the whole thing!

Getting back to the point, guys you have to get with it.  The proposal is 100% you and your reflection of your relationship.  A man in love is going to take time and really think about a good proposal and plan one around his woman; what she likes, what she would be impressed by.  He knows his lady.

Take for instance my S.O. - a good man - he knows that I"m the type of lady who is going to want the world to know when he proposes.  He knows I'd want my mom and dad there, as many friends as he can get and I'll want it videotaped to post on my YouTube channel.  He jokes with me sometimes saying the perfect proposal for me would be during the next opening of the Olympic games; he would have to be the once carrying the torch and before lighting the flame he'd ask me to marry him this way the whole world would be watching.  haha! 

Some ladies aren't like me.  They are more of the "just you and me" keep it quiet type of proposal.  A romantic get-a-way with no one around or romantic dinner in a dimly lit Italian cafe.  Bottomline, know your lady and know what type of proposal she'd want.

One thing for sure, that both types of ladies would hate, is the spur-of-the-moment proposal.  Guys, don't ask during a heated argument just to get her to "be quiet" that kind of proposal would rob us ladies of the grand proposal women dream of. 


An official proposal  is the act that seals the deal— even if we’ve already decided to marry our respective partners.  There's something about a lackluster proposal that just seems incomplete.  Plus, it's a horrible way to start the martial part of the relationship, AND there's no great story when the eventual question comes to pass, "How did he do it?"  Don't rob us of that glory, guys!  Come on!

Take ownership, guys!  The proposal again, is 100% all you.  Take the lead and run with it.  Use up all your creative juices.  Keep in mind, the proposal is the memory your lady will always cherish and one that people will always ask about. 

Now, I'm sure those of you reading this who didn't get the kind of proposal you dreamed of don't feel any less married, but I'm sure it's something you wish you could do over.  Be honest.  For others, I imagine, a proposal is an unnecessary formality that’s easy to forgo. So, tell me, readers, what camp do you fall into? Is an official proposal something you feel you need? Do you want your man to ask for your father’s permission or blessing? Does he have to get down on one knee?

Also, don't forget about my business: Surprise! You're Engaged - we help PLAN and VIDEOTAPE wedding proposals.  It's all hidden camera work - she'll never know I'm there until she says YES!

Remember, LOVE is in the air, SO TAKE IT IN!!!