Hey Everyone!
Here's a little food for thought ... when it come to the proposal, can either sex do the bended knee act??? That's the focus of the latest blog entry on http://www.chicktalkdallas.com/blog/?p=988. I encourage all to read about it.
Here are my two cents however ... I'm a traditional-modern woman. I enjoy when a man pays for dinner or opens my door; to that end I also feel a woman can take over the "bread-winning" in a household. That's my aim at least. Women should not have to live under the financial thumb of a man. Therefore, would I get down on one knee and ask a man to marry me?? ABSOLUTELY. I see no problem with me doing so.
However, there are a couple of things that most likely would keep a woman from doing that:
1. Uncertainty. It's hard to gauge a man's feelings and "where he's at" in the relationship. I believe that probably why you don't see woman doing the asking. Men, I know you feel the same way about some of us gals.
2. Goes against tradition. I get it. Trust me I get it. Women love being center of attention and to turn that on the man wouldn't be a popular concept. What do I say to that?? Men need to feel special too. They love attention just as much as women.
That's my RoMANtic Redemption...until next time....LOVE IS IN THE AIR, SO TAKE IT IN.
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I have been struggling with this, too. My partner (SCL in the blogworld) and I are planning to be engaged within the year, and up until recently, we'd been having a lot of conversations about proposals, rings (lots of discussions over that), tradition, etc. We've decided to drop it for now, seeing as how we're not quite there yet.
ReplyDeleteHere is my struggle: I am a proud feminist. I am all about partnership, questioning traditional gender roles, paying for things/splitting things in half, being independent, etc. In this regard, I struggle with the man having the power to determine when an engagement should take place, and I have to wait for it. This does not seem fair!
On the other hand, a part of me does want the romantic proposal and ring, etc. SCL is not traditionally romantic, and we are generally practical as a couple. So, I'm not ready to give up on the idea of a traditional proposal.
I'm thinking that after his proposal, I will plan one for him, too! I've seen other women do this, and I think it's a fantastic idea--and a compromise.
I love, love, love that idea!!! Yes, let him do his and then plan one yourself, what an incredible thought!!!
ReplyDeleteIf you need help planning or want it on video, let me know that's what I do! I plan and videotape wedding proposals!!!
Will do! We're still a few months out, but I'm thinking something involving a Ring Pop type ring (something silly) for him to wear. What a fun job you have!
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