You know, it's a good thing I have Surprise! You're Engaged to keep me busy otherwise I'd probably be going crazy thinking of all the SEX I'm NOT HAVING. That's right after years of pre-marital sex I've stopped. No more promiscuous activities going on here, I've stopped all that.
What happened? To tell you the truth, I went back to church - on my own accord. Well sort of on my own accord, actually the major catalyst was my being laid off in June '08. Six months with no income coming in, depression set in, I wasn't showering, stayed in bed all day and night, I was miserable - that's definitely enough to make anyone go back to church.
Three months prior to my lay off in June, I had met my S.O. (significant other) and bless his heart, he stayed with me through that dark and depressing time. What a man huh? Yea, I think so too.
Anyhow, we both made a commitment to go back to church and become member of Fellowship Church in Grapevine, Texas. That to this day has been the best decision of my life. Since becoming a member, I've stopped lusting after guys, no more trolling the Dallas clubs looking for men and no more sex.
It's funny, but the no more sex thing has actually been a good thing for my relationship with my S.O. What's more? He's totally in agreement of it. And, he's not cheating - promise. So far, it's been nearly a year since we've had any kind of sex and that includes oral.
So what do we attribute our "No Sex policy" to? Our fear of God. You see, our belief is if we engage in sex before marriage, God will punish us and our relationship/marriage. It's definitely been hard, so to speak, especially on birthdays, our anniversary, vacations, trust me we've been tempted. However, we feel if we're strong enough to hold out during this time, that strength will also be exhibited in our marriage.
No sex has also made us a lot more creative when it comes to roMANcing each other. Plus, our senses are much more heightened when we become increasingly "hot for each other". A simple kiss or touch is so much more now - it's a complete turn on.
And that's today's RoMANtic Redemption. Until next time ...
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"You see, our belief is if we engage in sex before marriage, God will punish us and our relationship/marriage."
ReplyDeleteThis makes me so sad. God will punish two loving adults who enter a mutually pleasurable, consensual, respectable sexual relationship?
There can be good reasons to abstain, but it saddens me that the fear of God's punishment is the one you named.